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Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Good Girls Don't Have to Finish Last

I'm usually not one to write a post on this specific subject, but I just HAD to. I'm no relationship expert by far, but I had to get my pent up emotions out and write about something that was effecting my life.

Many of us have had that one guy that we have been hung up on, can't get over and keep running back to, even though we know the relationship is more toxic than not. Mine was my first boyfriend. 7+ years later, we have continued to do the same song and dance.

One day he wants to work on a relationship with me, the next month he'll say he knows we'll never be together and that we are better off as friends.

Well, not too long ago we did the bath and forth dance. He claimed he wanted to truly give us a chance, and of course I became a glob of silly putty and fell for the same thing he has told me time and time again.

I should know by now doing the same actions only results in the same outcome, and of course, the same outcome occurred.

I have been a second choice more often times than not with my ex and I have always made excuses for him. I literally drove myself crazy thinking about our current situation, but I honestly feel like God works in mysterious ways.

The next day I happened to stumble across an AMAZING blog post my friend shared on Facebook that I NEEDED to hear entitled, "You're Not a "Plan B" Kind of Girl."

There's not many posts about single girls finding Mr. Right that speak to me. THIS ONE DID. It was everything I needed to hear and then some.

I know this blog post won't make me magically change my ways about how I handle my ex. It's a long history that I have to want to stop for myself, but this is a push towards the right direction,

I am making a vow to myself that I will not be treated any less than I deserve to be. Every girl is worth more than that. I will no longer make excuse for him or any other guy for that matter. As Kenya Moore magically put it, "Don't come for me unless I send for you."

If any of you girls have had a similar situation, let me know!

Love and desserts,

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  2. Loved how real this post is, one of my friends was going through a similar situation last year with her boyfriend of 2 years who had broken her heart more than once. Luckily she was strong and after some encouragement ended it for good. She's much happier and is living proof that you shouldn't settle for anything less than the diamond standard you deserve!

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